Within each and everyone of us exists a part that will never grow old. We psychologists call this the Inner Child. It is a part of you that represents all your childhood experiences, memories and feelings- good and bad. It is that part of you that is the most naturally innocent, playful, down-to-earth and whose approach to life is simple and straightforward. So, in keeping with the theme of this month and in particular Youth Day tomorrow, lets all take some time out to be kind to our own Inner Child. Here are seven things that you can say to heal and nurture your Inner Child:
- I LOVE YOU
Growing up love may not have been freely available or we learnt that we needed to accomplish certain goals in order to receive love. But now we can tell ourselves that we are loveable. Say it whenever you see yourself in the mirror, or at any random moments. Love is the key to healing, so give to yourself. Why not?
- I HEAR YOU
When we feel hurt we may push these and other uncomfortable feelings away because we are older and because we tell ourselves that we are supposed to be able to deal with them. This is a message we may have received during childhood or learnt from our parents. But these feelings never really go away and they continue to have an affect on daily lives. So instead of suppressing these feelings tell your inner child “I hear you. We’ll work through it. Its going to be okay”
- YOU DIDN’T DESERVE THIS
As a child we may have experienced situations where we treated badly and we believed that we deserved it. This thinking gets carried through into adulthood and and therefore we believe that we deserve the treatment we receive. But what we have to remember that a child is innocent and as adults we are are now able to understand that we did not and don’t deserve to be treated badly.
- IM SORRY
Somewhere we may have learnt that we needed to push ourselves really hard to achieve and criticise ourselves if we wanted to “play”. Say sorry to your inner child for not allowing her/him to play and enjoy everything that life has to offer.
- I FORGIVE YOU
Holding onto shame and regret is the quickest way to destroy yourself. We have to remember that the child’s interpretation is very different to that of an adult. Forgive youself for anything you thought you could have done better then.
- THANK YOU
Your inner child deserves your gratitude. Thank him/her for never giving up and trying to protect you in whatever she could and can to get you through the toughest and most painful experiences you may already have experienced.
- YOU DID YOUR BEST
Good enough, is good enough. Let go of perfection and the ever present fear of failure will dissipate. Being demanding and cruel no matter your achievements will only feed your fear. You did your best and that is good enough.
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Milov, A. (2015). Love. [Sculpture]. Retreived from www.mymodernmet.com