Emotional Health: Tips for Talking to a Depressed Teen

Tips for Talking to a Depressed Teen

Offer support

Let depressed teenagers know that you’re there for them, fully and unconditionally. Hold back from asking a lot of questions (teenagers don’t like to feel patronized or crowded), but make it clear that you’re ready and willing to provide whatever support they need.

Be gentle but persistent

Don’t give up if your adolescent shuts you out at first. Talking about depression can be very tough for teens. Be respectful of your child’s comfort level while still emphasizing your concern and willingness to listen.

Listen without lecturing

Resist any urge to criticize or pass judgment once your teenager begins to talk. The important thing is that your child is communicating. Avoid offering unsolicited advice or ultimatums as well.

Validate feelings

Don’t try to talk your teen out of his or her depression, even if his or her feelings or concerns appear silly or irrational to you. Simply acknowledge the pain and sadness he or she is feeling. If you don’t, he or she will feel like you don’t take his or her emotions seriously.


Emotional Wellness: Music and Mood

Music and Mood

Music’s beneficial effects on mental health have been known for thousands of years. Ancient philosophers from Plato to Confucius and the kings of Israel sang the praises of music and used it to help soothe stress. Military bands use music to build confidence and courage. Sporting events provide music to rouse enthusiasm. Schoolchildren use music to memorize their ABCs. Shopping malls play music to entice consumers and keep them in the store. Dentists play music to help calm nervous patients. Modern research supports conventional wisdom that music benefits mood and confidence.

Because of our unique experiences, we develop different musical tastes and preferences. Despite these differences, there are some common responses to music. Babies love lullabies. Maternal singing is particularly soothing, regardless of a mom’s formal musical talents or training. Certain kinds of music make almost everyone feel worse, even when someone says she enjoys it; in a study of 144 adults and teenagers who listened to 4 different kinds of music, grunge music led to significant increases in hostility, sadness, tension, and fatigue across the entire group, even in the teenagers who said they liked it. In another study, college students reported that pop, rock, oldies, and classical music helped them feel happier and more optimistic, friendly, relaxed, and calm.

Music, Attention, and Learning

Everyone who has learned their ABCs knows that it is easier to memorize a list if it is set to music. Scientific research supports common experience that pairing music with rhythm and pitch enhances learning and recall. Music helps children and adolescents with attention problems in several ways. First, it can be used as a reward for desired behavior. For example, for paying attention to homework for 10 minutes, a child can be rewarded with the opportunity to listen to music for 5 minutes. Second, it can be used to help enhance attention to “boring” academic tasks such as memorization, using songs, rhythms, and dance or movement to enhance the interest of the lists to be memorized. Instrumental baroque music is great for improving attention and reasoning. For students, playing background music is not distracting. Third, musical cues can be used to help organize activities – one kind of music for one activity (studying), another for a different activity (eating), and a third kind for heading to bed. Fourth, studies show that calming music can promote pro-social behavior and decrease impulsive behavior.

Music and Anxiety

Many people find familiar music comforting and calming. In fact, music is so effective in reducing anxiety, it is often used in dental, preoperative, and radiation therapy settings to help patients cope with their worries about procedures. Music helps decrease anxiety in the elderly, new mothers, and children too. Music’s ability to banish worries is illustrated in the Rogers and Hammerstein lyrics,

“Whenever I feel afraid, I hold my head erect
And whistle a happy tune, so no one will suspect I’m afraid…
And every single time,
the happiness in the tune convinces me that I’m not afraid.”

Any kind of relaxing, calming music can contribute to calmer moods. Calming music can be combined with cognitive therapy to lower anxiety even more effectively than conventional therapy alone.

Some studies suggest that specially designed music, such as music that includes tones that intentionally induce binaural beats to put brain waves into relaxed delta or theta rhythms, can help improve symptoms in anxious patients even more than music without these tones; listening to this music without other distractions (not while driving, cooking, talking, or reading) promotes the best benefits.

Music and Moods

An analysis of 5 studies on music for depression concluded that music therapy is not only acceptable for depressed patients, but it actually helps improve their moods. Music has proven useful in helping patients with serious medical illnesses such as cancer, burns, and multiple sclerosis who are also depressed. If it can help in these situations, it may be able to help you and your loved ones experience more positive moods.

Music and Sleep

Many people listen to soothing music to help them fall asleep. This practice is supported by studies in a variety of settings. Just don’t try listening to lively dance music or rousing marches before you aim to fall asleep. Conversely, if you’re trying to wake up in the morning, go for the fast-tempo music rather than lullabies.

Music and Stress

Since ancient times, it has been known that certain kinds of music can help soothe away stress. Calming background music can significantly decrease irritability and promote calm in elderly nursing home patients with dementia. Music, widely chosen, lowers stress hormone levels. On the other hand, every parent of a teenager knows that certain kinds of music, particularly at high volumes, can induce stress. Knowing that certain kinds of music can alleviate stress is one thing; being mindful in choosing what kind of music to listen to is another. Choose your musical intake as carefully as you choose your food and friends.

Last Updated  8/20/2015
Mental Health, Naturally: The Family Guide to Holistic Care for a Healthy Mind and Body (Copyright © 2010 American Academy of Pediatrics)

The information contained on this Web site should not be used as a substitute for the medical care and advice of your pediatrician. There may be variations in treatment that your pediatrician may recommend based on individual facts and circumstances.


Milo the robot is changing lives

This humanoid robot is helping autistic children worldwide.

Milo is a remarkable robot with world renowned facial expressions and personalities.


Children with autism who have difficulty interacting with others are learning to feel more comfortable about expressing themselves thanks to the lessons learnt through working with their therapists and Milo.

Researchers believe that robots hold the key to diagnosing children with autism much earlier on in life, but how exactly are these robots doing it?

Take a look at the video below and find out how Milo is helping children with autism.


Youth Jobs for Week 41: 05 Oct – 10 Oct

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Remember all these job opportunities do not want any work experience! 🙂 
==Youth Jobs of The Week [Week 41: 05 Oct – 10 Oct]==
1) Grade 12/NN3 Wanted For Boilermaker Learnership! APPLY NOW: http://www.tolajob.co.za/jobview.php?jid=20635
2) Grade 12 Wanted For Discovery Customer Service Learnership! APPLY NOW: http://www.tolajob.co.za/jobview.php?jid=20403
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5) Auditing And Finance Graduates Wanted For CQS Internship! APPLY NOW: http://www.tolajob.co.za/jobview.php?jid=20633
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Graduate Opportunity in Electrical Engineering



Learn and develop by participating in a CHIETA funded, mentor driven Electrical Engineering program covering all fields of Electrical Engineering (Light Current).


Job Title: Graduate: Electrical Engineering (Light Current)
Department: Engineering
Job Type Classification: Graduate
Location – Town / City: Port Elizabeth
Location – Province: Eastern Cape
Location – Country: South Africa

Key Responsibilities

The graduate would be involved in the following areas:

* Energy Management (Power monitoring, Alalysis, Continuous improvement
* Premature failure analysis on all electrical applications
* Fault finding and repairs to AC/DC machines
* EX protection analysis and legal compliance
* Management of all maintenance systems
* Fire protection and detection systems
* Refrigeration and heat pump technology
* Air management control systems
* Telemecanique
* PLC programming and fault finding
* Electrical legal compliance administration

Education & Experience

Minimum of 3 years Electrical Engineering Diploma

Close Date: 2015/10/23

Click Here to Apply ONLINE




Phlebotomy Technician Learnership 2016

pathcareThe PathCare Academy is offering training programmes for Phlebotomy Technician Learnerships commencing in 2016. This two year course has been successfully offered by the Academy since its inception in 2006 when Pathcare engaged South Africa’s first phlebotomy learners.

The learnership consists of a structured learning component (theory) as well as work place experience (practical).

The theoretical component of the training will take place at the PathCare Academy in Cape Town. Length of time in Cape Town is approximately 8 months in total but this may vary. Students gain practical experience at various PathCare laboratories across South Africa.

Successful candidates are paid an allowance and are employed on a two-year contract during their studies at the PathCare Academy.

All accommodation costs, while in Cape Town and other locations, is the responsibility of the student.

Learners are taught anatomy and physiology, medical ethics, laboratory safety (including HIV infection prevention), and how to safely collect blood and non blood specimens for medical pathology and blood transfusion purposes.

Registered phlebotomy technicians are equipped, through the knowledge and skills gained, to safely collect blood and other human tissue samples for medical pathology or blood transfusion purposes.

These samples aid in the prevention, diagnosis, treatment and monitoring of disease and disease processes in the body.

On successful completion of the two year course and a Board Examination set by the HPCSA, the learner is able to register with the HPCSA as a qualified Phlebotomy Technician and is able to work in pathology laboratories or blood transfusion services.

Successful students will be eligible to apply for permanent positions at PathCare locations across the country.

Minumum Requirements

– Grade 12 Mathematics/Maths Literacy and Biology/Life Science.

Desired Competencies and Abilities:

  • Read, write and speak English fluently
  • Read, write and understand basic Afrikaans
  • Work effectively as part of a team and independently
  • Work under pressure and study rigorously
  • Possess a well developed work ethic
  • Willing to collect and/or process blood and body products
  • Provide excellent service and be responsive to customer needs
  • Work shifts and after hours as required

The competitive selection process will include: screening of applications and academic results, written proficiency tests and panel interviews.

All fields are to be completed. If your form is incomplete your application will not be considered

DO NOT include a CV. All information that is required at this stage should be filled in on the application form.

The following documents must accompany your application:

  • Certified copy of your ID
  • Certified copy of your final Grade 12 certificate (If you are currently in Grade 12 please supply a copy of your June report with results)
  • Certified copy of results from any tertiary studies whether the course is complete or incomplete
  • Two completed personal recommendations (Pg 7/8) one should be from your teacher/lecturer and the other from your manager/supervisor.

NOTE: applicants who have not followed all the instructions and accurately and thoroughly completed the application form, or who have not provided certified copies of all required documents will not be considered

Closing Date: 30 September 2015

Click Here to Download Application

Click Here to Pathcare Career Page


Schauenburg Education Trust Bursary Programme

The Schauenburg Education Trust focuses on selecting and financing students to obtain qualifications which have been identified as scarce skills and which will ensure that these skills are available for employment in South Africa.

For the foreseeable future, Schauenburg Education Trust will focus on providing bursaries to students in their third and fourth year of study in the field of Electrical and Electronic Engineering at specified universities.


Bursaries for the 2016 academic year are intended to cover third and fourth year students studying Electrical Engineering Degrees (through specified universities) who are:

  • Black as per BEE legislation, with preference given to Black women, Black students under 35 years of age, and Black disabled students;
  • South African citizens with valid ID numbers;
  • Willing to attend interviews and undergo psychometric testing;and
  • Willing to spend university holidays doing vacation work or job shadowing at Schauenburg Systems (Pty) Ltd.

To apply for this bursary, students must be:

  • full time second or third year students and;
  • studying Electrical Engineering Degrees (BEng or BSc);
  • at specified accredited South African universities (no bursaries for the 2016 academic year will be awarded to students for studies at a university of technology or college).

Who can apply?

Second or third year students studying Electrical Engineering Degrees (BEng or BSc) can apply for bursaries for their third and fourth year of study.

Applicants must have taken Maths (not Maths Literacy), Science and English in their matric year and achieved a minimum of a level 6 for all 3 subjects.

Applicants must also be able to show that they have made good academic progress during their First and Second year of their tertiary education while studying towards obtaining a degree in Electrical Engineering.

Applicants must have passed all courses for which they have registered while at university.

Closing Date: 30 October 2015

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Use Your Talent to Take You Places

_85651549_dancersHave you ever been so good at something but never thought it would take you places? Think again…

Meet 15-year-old Leroy Mokgatle who came out winning gold at the Genee International Ballet Competition.

In addition to winning gold, he was presented with the Margot Fonteyn Audience Choice Award.

It is hard work Yes!, and The dancers rehearse about 12 hours a day, doing ballet and contemporary dance, as well as normal school work.

The hard work pays off, so endure the sweat and tears and reap the rewards.

At an interview with eNCA he shared some thoughts on his accomplishment. “It’s a very… big honour for me to get a gold medal,” adding that his goal had been to just get to the finals.

“And I did get that, and I got more,” he said modestly after ending on top out of 76 contestants from around the world at the finals hosted by the Royal Academy of Dance in London.

So, believe in yourself.

If you passionate enough and work hard enough you can reach for your dreams.

City offers external bursaries for 2016

Bursaries for full-time studies at approved tertiary institutions are currently offered to persons residing in the greater Cape Metropolitan area who will be registering for an undergraduate or postgraduate degree or diploma.

Following fields of study in 2016:

  • Architecture
  • Atmospheric science (MSc/PhD)
  • BComm (procurement logistics)
  • Business analyst
  • Building development
  • Building and construction development
  • Chemistry (MSc/PhD)
  • Civil engineering (MSc)
  • Civil engineering (Housing projects management)
  • Civil engineering (specialisation in port and coastal engineering)
  • City, town and regional planning
  • Conservation of the built environment/heritage studies and management (postgraduate)
  • Conservation ecology/biodiversity and conservation (MSc/PhD)
  • Ecotoxicology (MSc/PhD)
  • Electrical engineering – heavy current (BSc)
  • Energy management (postgraduate)
  • Law/ethics/risk/auditing/IT (Forensic)
  • Geographical information systems (MSc/PhD)
  • Geomatics (BSc)
  • Industrial engineering
  • Landscape architecture
  • Library and information science
  • Materials and road pavement engineering
  • Mechanical engineering (MSc)
  • Molecular biology/virology (MSc/PhD)
  • Nursing
  • Occupational health and safety management (BTech)
  • Pharmacy
  • Project management (postgraduate)
  • Property studies (postgraduate)
  • Real estate
  • Surveying (BTech)
  • Statistics
  • Town and regional planning
  • Transport logistics
  • Transportation studies
  • Traffic engineering
  • Water utilisation/water treatment (MSc/PhD)

Bursaries will cover registration, examination and class fees.

Enquiries: City of Cape Town Employment Service Desk: 0860 103 089 (Option 6), 021 400 1404/2044/3619/3899

Closing date: 2 October 2015

Application forms are obtainable from and returnable to the following addresses and at all libraries nearest to you by no later than the above-mentioned closing date:

Brackenfell Municipal Office (c/o Paradys and Old Paarl Roads, Brackenfell)
Cape Town Human Resources Employment Counter (Concourse Level, Civic Centre, Cape Town)
Helderberg Municipal Office (First Floor, Human Resource Division, c/o Main Road and Fagan Street, Strand)
South Peninsula Municipal Office (c/o Victoria and Main Roads, Plumstead)
Bellville Municipal Building (Voortrekker Road, Bellville)

Parow Municipal Building (Voortrekker Road, Parow)

Application forms are also available here.

Please note:

  • No late applications will be considered
  • Received applications will not be acknowledged in writing and copies of supporting documents will not be returned
  • Should you not have received a response from us by 18 December 2015, kindly accept that your application has been unsuccessful

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PSG Bursary Opportunity

PSGGet a head start by participating in the PSG graduate programme.  We are offering a bursary towards completing your honours in your respective field of study.

The programme offers financial support and an internship opportunity on completion of your studies.


Qualifying criteria

• Be a South African citizen
• Obtained a 60% plus average and above academic record
• Be successfully selected for the honours programme in the following:
• Actuarial, Financial accounting, Informatics, Statistics, Risk Management or Investments
• Law or LLB<br
• Applied Maths, Maths or Statistics
• B. Eng: Industrial Engineering
• Demonstrate financial need

In line with the national imperative of equity and redress, the bursary scheme prioritises support for Black, Coloured and Indian students.

Affiliates of the PSG Konsult Group are authorised financial services providers.

CLOSING DATE: Thursday, 15 October 2015


One year internship programme with PSG


• Send your CV and academic transcripts to graduates@psg.co.za
• All shortlisted candidates will receive an application form to complete the application process

Click Here to Apply PSG Bursary Page